February 27

Written by Bill Grandi on February 27th, 2020

My title for this is Friendship-Valued and Real.

We (Jo & I) spent time last night with some long-time friends, Ryan and Amanda. But before I tell you about that, let me back up a few paces.

The older I get the more “aware” I get. I guess that means I haven’t lost my faculties yet. 🙂 I become more aware of what was, what is, and what very well may be. All in all, I have become more aware of what’s important and what’s not. Don’t get me wrong. I still look at pickups and I still look at Trek bikes. I still look at hills and dream of climbing them. I still want to make improvements on the house. But they don’t hold the luster or the draw they used to.

As I get older though, I realize what’s important-what and who I want around me.  I don’t want negative people.  I don’t have the time or the energy to try to change their minds. I have little patience for whiners and complainers.  I have even less patience for naysayers, doomsday-sayers, and hide-under-a-rock folk. I have no patience for legalists, Pharisees, and judgmental hypocrites.

But I do have time and take pleasure in my friends. Jo tops the list. My girls and grandson stand next. I am supposed to have lunch tomorrow (Topp’t pizza…yum) with my best male friend, a college friend of close to 50 years. And then there was last night. A last minute call asking us to join them and we spent over 2 enjoyable hours with them. His excitement after buying 10 acres of land for their future was evident. It has been a dream. They moved to Owen County in January of 2008; had corresponded with our webmaster (one of our former leaders) and me beforehand; we went out for lunch (pizza, of course) after their first visit to OVCF; and the rest is history.  Sunday lunch was usually with them. We were inseparable until they betrayed us and moved about 45 minutes away. 🙂 I jest. Actually, it was a good family move for them, but the knife in my heart was real. Even now, we try to get together to eat and laugh. They like Texas Roadhouse too! They also like Mexican, which is right up Jo’s alley. I also know Ryan reads and comments so I’ll say out loud: Thanks Ryan and Amanda for a great evening and for an even greater joy: our friendship.

Long story short: friendships are valuable. As I get closer to “the other side,” I realize friendships last. I want to gather my friends around me, reminisce, laugh and tell them how much I love them and their friendship has meant to me. The truck, the toys, the house, the bike can’t hug or speak back. (Although I do have a t-shirt that hints the bike just might). Real friends can’t be replaced.

“Father, thank you for my friends. Thanks for those who have been longtime friends. I value them more than they know. And help me to be a friend. And thank you for Jesus-the friend of sinners. Like me. ‘Greater love has no man than this than a man lay down his life for a friend.’ That’s Jesus.” 


7 Comments so far ↓

  1. Ohhh….so that is who Ryan is! LOL…

    Being a pastor can be a lonely calling. I’m so glad you have long-time friends who have proven trustworthy and faithful and you can enjoy life with. May God continue to bless your friendships.

  2. Ryan S. says:

    Bill, it was a good time to get together and share life even if just for an evening. Thanks for breaking routine and coming out to join us.
    As always, it was great to see you and Jo!

    And you are spot on in regards to friendships… they are valuable!


  3. The older I get, Bill, the less I think about “things” and the more I focus on those people I love. Lasting friendships are hard to come by, so hang on to yours with Ryan! Hi, Ryan! 🙂

  4. Ed says:

    Ah, so now we shed some light on the mysterious shadowy figure Ryan!
    Who knows what the Shadow knows? 😀
    Yery true what you say Bill. Friends are precious.. even the ones who are more than just 45 minutes away.
    I just wish some friends… would move back, or back a little bit closer than they are now.
    Ok.. ok, a lot closer

  5. floyd says:

    I’m with you, Bill. Life is too short to spend it participating in nonsense. Being real is freeing and honest. Glad you got to spend time with dear ones.