There is one thing I am very passionate about. I preach it. I speak it. I counsel it. I’ve definitely said it more than once. I think Bob Goff’s quote by Nelson Mandela says it well:
As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn’t leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I’d still be in prison. (#279-p.329)
I have stated it another way countless times (just ask the folks of the church I pastor): “If you fail to forgive, you have become their slave. They own you.”
Sweet Comfort Band, an early iconic group of Contemporary Christian Music, recorded a song called Habit of Hate. I’ve recently begun listening to them again and had forgotten about that song. Here is a taste of the powerful lyrics: “Now you’re clenching your fist/And that crazed, evil passion begins/Now you’re waiting for you victim/Careful planning, getting even/And you strangle your love/When you strengthen your habit of hate.” (Album: Perfect Timing-1984)
They are right on the money. I have seen so many lives devastated-their own and those close to them-by someone’s hatred and refusal to forgive. It is like they become another person.
I think Bob said it best in that same devotion:
When we become people who extend forgiveness, especially when it’s costly or hard, we’ll be well on our way to loving like Jesus. (Ibid)
May we all start loving like Jesus.
May I start loving like Jesus.
“Father, help me to love like Jesus. Help me to not be captive the destructive emotions that ruin me and those around me.”
If you want to hear the song, you can check it out here.
Forgiveness can be difficult, but as you said Bill, lacking forgiveness only imprisons the one holding on. I’ll be honest, I have been on both sides of forgiveness. Forgiving is always much more freeing for the one who is offering it.
Very insightful remark Ryan. it is always much more freeing.
I just finished reading that devotion a few moments ago, Bill, and it sure struck a chord in me. The only ones punished by our unwillingness to forgive are ourselves. Mandela should be an example for all of us.
Blessings!
yes he should. our greater example, of course, is Jesus!