February 16

Written by Bill Grandi on February 16th, 2022

I listened to someone yesterday. You might say, “That’s not unusual. I listen to people every day.” And I suspect you are right. But when I say I listened to someone, I mean I L.I.S.T.E.N.E.D. to someone.

Let me explain. In wanting to do something, and unsure of what direction to go in, I gave multiple options. That’s not bad except the way I presented it was confusing (so this person said). It was too many options. And confusing. After doing something one way, I was thinking of shifting gears. Did I say it was confusing? The other person thought so anyway. I can honestly say I was seeking the multiple persons’ opinions when I gave the options, but I was muddying the waters.

There is more to the situation that I have been able to describe but I won’t bore you with the details. My point in all of this rambling is the importance of listening. Really listening. Taking advice. I’ve not always been the best at doing that (and I suspect I am not alone). I often shoot from the hip and think later. I also have pieces to pick up sometimes. I could have saved a lot heartache, headaches, and wounded bodies if I had sought advice first.

Taking advice is not easy. I’m reading a book right now on Don’t Blow Up Your Ministry by Michael Mackenzie and one of the common threads of those who do so is the failure to listen, to take advice, to be accountable. Ego enters the picture. A know-it-all attitude. An air of invincibility. A superhero complex.  Pr.12:15 says, “The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a person who listens to advice is wise.” Listening to advice separates the wise and the fool. “A wise person is cautious and turns away from evil, but a fool is arrogant and careless.”

I’m not sure how this situation will turn out, but for me, at least it was a step in the right direction.

Do you listen to advice or do you tend to be deadset in your own ways and in you own agenda?

“Father, continue to teach me to listen and learn.”

Note: All Scripture is from the NASB2020.


4 Comments so far ↓

  1. It’s so easy to think we know it all, Bill, when that’s the farthest thing from the truth. May God help all of us to be devoted listeners.

  2. Ryan S. says:

    As I have gotten older (and hopefully a little wiser) I have tried to seek the counsel of others when making a decision. Mostly my wife. She is a good sounding board for some of my ideas. I will admit that if I have an idea that I think is good… it is hard to persuade me otherwise. I can usually come up with a counter point to offset a significant change in direction. That said… I have tried to be open minded and listen. Not just listen to figure out a rebuttal, but listen to the words, the body language, the facial expressions… Sometimes those say more than words.

    • Bill Grandi says:

      Older and wiser should go hand in hand. 🙂 I think that your approach has merit. It will either strengthen your resolve our open your thoughts to other possibilities.