February 14

Written by Bill Grandi on February 14th, 2024

Have you ever noticed that there are typically two kinds of people dealing with Valentine’s Day? There are those to love it. They go all out-flowers, cards, eating out (or cooking a candlelight dinner…since when?). On the other hand are those who loathe the day. Love has left them high and dry. Disappointed. Broken.

Disregarding the love/loathe feelings, the idea behind the day-expressing love-is a good one (although it has become a tad bit too cheesy and commercial).

The very first date Jo and I went on was back in 1971, near the end of our freshman year in college. I borrowed a car and we were off to another town to see the movie everyone was raving about-Love Story-starring Ryan O’Neal and Ali McGraw. Without researching it I couldn’t tell you much about the movie except 3 things: 1) Ali was a beautiful woman; 2) I think she was dying; and 3) one of the stupidest statements about love came from that movie. That saying was “Love means never having to say you’re sorry.”

Say what? If that’s the case I’ve just wasted 50+ years of being married to the same woman! If I had a dollar for every time I have had to say, “I’m sorry” I could retire and live off the interest! I realize there are bullies and arrogant people who either blame others consistently or cannot look in the mirror and admit they make mistakes. But seriously? Never?

Love is an elusive definition. The Apostle Paul described love in perhaps the most recognized Scripture and description. He described love as being kind, patient, not jealous, not proud, not demanding, not a record-keeper, not a “rejoicer” in wrong but a “rejoicer” in truth. But even that falls short when you consider a cross on a hill when the perfect Lover gave His life for all people so sin can be defeated and death vanquished.

He never had to say, “I’m sorry.” But we who look at that cross should fall to our knees in tears and repentance with those two words flowing from our lips: “I’m sorry my sin put you there.”

After all, “No greater love has a man than this than a man lay down his life for his friends.” Happy real Valentine’s Day.


8 Comments so far ↓

  1. Linda Stoll says:

    Valentine’s Day blessings to you and Jo!

  2. Goodness, that was a dumb movie I’d forgotten about until now, Bill. Jesus is the true one and only valentine our hearts should celebrate, and we need to be prepared to tell him we’re sorry whenever necessary.

    • Bill Grandi says:

      You can tell how much of an impact it had on me! 🙂 I remember very very little about it. And you are right…Jesus is the one we should celebrate.

  3. gail says:

    Notice that all the attributes that Paul says about love, apply to Jesus all the time, not sometimes, not most of the time, but all the time. It is always Jesus’s love that carries us through, His love has no end. It will be Jesus’s love for us that will ultimately result in an eternity of love and peace. Thank-you Jesus, for the ultimate gift of love.

  4. Yes, Bill, all the candy and flowers in the world don’t measure up to the way God expressed His love for us!
    Saw that same movie so popular at the time. You might enjoy one that Ryan O’Neill made later on called, “What’s Up, Doc?” It is hilarious and the stupidity of that line is mentioned in it. It’s my favorite movie of all time.

    • Bill Grandi says:

      I’ve heard of that movie Pam but have never seen it. I think it had Barbara Streisand in it didn’t it? You are right with your first statement for sure.