This past Sunday one of our men gave the communion meditation/thought before we take communion together. This man spent 20+ years in the military, which included 2 tours in Iraq. Being that it was Memorial Day weekend, he chose to speak about the purpose of MD. He said it was to remember those who died in service to our country. He added another group: those who died who were no longer in active duty. He spoke particularly of those who had taken their own lives. 7 men in his platoon have taken their own lives. Countless others suffer from PTSD.
I was reminded of the price paid for me to be able to worship as I please; to speak as I please; to live as I choose; even demonstrate (right or wrong) because of men and women who paid the ultimate sacrifice in giving their lives. I’m humbled by that. (Perhaps the ingrates who hate our country or abuse their freedom should move to Russia, China or another country where freedom to do those things is not an issue, i.e. it’s not allowed except under penalty of death). I also distinctly remember a Savior who paid the ultimate price even though undeserved.
Back to Sunday: overcome by his emotions, he was unable to continue so he asked me to. Then he apologized to the church. My first words were, “No apology necessary.” There have been times I have tearfully struggled to complete a thought or to continue. When one of my best friends died after a 15 year battle with prostate cancer, I choked up. When my best friend, Dave, died less than a year ago after an 18 month battle with a glioblastoma, I lost it.
There’s nothing “manly” or “womanly” about being stoic. Denying or hiding one’s feelings or emotions is not a “win.” It’s time to realize we need each other, if for no other reason than a shoulder to cry on or to lean on.
Find a shoulder. Be a shoulder.
Yes, Bill, we all need those shoulders from time to time and we need to be the ones who offer ours when the circumstances call for it. May all who willingly paid the ultimate price for our freedoms find eternal peace in the arms of Jesus.
Of course, you know I agree with you. But I should also add that I will not play judge on those who are unable to cope any more with life.
I have a Syrian friend who is has shown me over and over that men (and “big girls’) DO cry and it isn’t a sign of weakness—it’s a sign of heart-felt feelings.
you are blessed to have a friend who does that. it is a sign of heart-felt feelings.
My eyes teared up when he spoke about how many soldiers he lost in the war and after the war to suicide. No apologies needed in deed. I think anyone who speaks with passion from their heart, is following the model that Jesus set for us. When someone is overwhelmed with emotion, we need to support their honestly with love and care. Let them know we not only will stand with them but we are also proud of them.
Well said Gail. And very well-meaning. (I agree) Thanks